The iconic English philosopher and psychologist Herbert Spencer famously said, “There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance – that principle is contempt prior to investigation” This “contempt prior to investigation” is what often stops an individual from getting the addiction help that they need. In fact, one of the biggest keys to recovery is ”being willing” to accept the process.
Being Willing: Understanding the Disease of Addiction
Many people don’t get the help that they need because they are still holding on to the misconceptions and stigmas that have long followed addiction. These stigmas include the idea that addiction is some type of moral failing or “choice.” However, this thought process is false.
Addiction is not a “choice.” It is important to understand that someone struggling with addiction is not a failed person trying to do “bad.” Rather, someone struggling with addiction is a sick person trying to get well. The issue is that their solution is still “in a bottle or pill” rather than trusting in outside help (“being willing” to let go).
It is also important to understand that addiction is a “family disease.” This means that addiction does not just affect the individual who is struggling but affects everyone that that person loves and interacts with. This is why addiction is often referred to as a “tornado” that destroys everyone and everything in its path. However, while the family is often the most affected, they also often have the best opportunity to get their loved one the help that they need. Of course, to do this, they must be able to spot the signs and symptoms of addiction.
The Signs and Symptoms of Addiction
Now, the signs and symptoms of addiction are always going to vary based on the individual. However, one can look out for many universal signs and symptoms of addiction. The following are just a few of those signs and symptoms:
- Experiencing trouble at work or school
- Loss of appetite and a lack of care regarding physical appearance and wellbeing
- Exhibiting excessive mood swings
- Experiencing physical ailments such as headaches, body aches, and gastrointestinal problems
- Feeling anxious, nervous, or overly “stressed out”
- Having feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, and helplessness
- Not being able to stop once starting drinking or using
- Having trouble with sleep cycles, including sleeping too much and not sleeping enough (hypersomnia and insomnia)
- Losing interest in activities once enjoyed
- Isolating away from family and close friends
- Causing harm to oneself or others
- Having suicidal ideations
The reality is that many people minimize addiction or falsely categorize it as that previously mentioned “choice.” However, as one can see, these signs and symptoms are significant and can be deadly. This is why reaching out for professional help as soon as possible is vital. Doing so could mean the difference between short-term side effects and long-term consequences. However, one must “be willing” in order for this to happen.
Being Willing: Understanding “Contempt Prior to Investigation”
The fact of the matter is that the only person who can truly get the individual sober is themselves. Yes, friends and family can help, but ultimately, it is up to the individual to recover. However, they must get out of their own way first.
There are many fears that pop up when one thinks about getting help for their addiction. This includes fears surrounding whether they are going to lose their jobs, be taken back by their partners, or be able to live their lives as they once did.
The truth is that, after one gets the help they need, their lives will never be the same. In almost all instances, their lives have gotten better. Their willingness to recover has opened up new doors and opportunities that they never thought possible. Being willing also has to do with being willing to try new means, methods, and modalities for recovery.
Being Willing to Try Different Recovery Modalities
There are many ways in which one can recover. This includes many different modalities. The key is to be willing to try different treatments for recovery.
This includes psychotherapies like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). It also includes experiential therapies like nature immersion therapy and art therapy. Holistic healing methods like yoga therapy and mindfulness meditation can also be very beneficial for a well-rounded recovery.
Finding Willingness at Lantana Recovery
Here at Lantana Recovery, we understand that “being willing” is a critical component of success. Being willing is also important when it comes to long-term success. After all, recovery is more about long-term success than it is about short-term “fixes.”
Herbert Spencer also famously said, “Life is the continuous adjustment of internal relations to external relations.” Recovery happens from the inside. But, one needs the right outside help to make that happen.
Recovery is out there. We can help.
It is important to be willing to try many different means, methods, and modalities in recovery. This will best ensure that the right methods are used in an individualized and comprehensive recovery plan. It is also important to be willing to change a recovery plan that isn’t working. If you feel like you or a loved one are struggling with issues of addiction, mental health disorders, or co-occurring disorders, we can help get you on the right road to recovery right away. You don’t have to go through the recovery process alone. For more information about willingness and acceptance in recovery, please reach out to Lantana Recovery today at (866) 997-2870.
